The Guardian is in receipt of your letter .. . and has
learned with deep concern of the state of disharmony existing between you and
your husband.
While he wishes me to assure you that he will pray for the
solution of your domestic troubles, he would urge you to endeavour, by every
means in your power, to compose your differences, and not to allow them to
reach such proportions as to lead to your complete and final separation from
your husband. For while, according to the Bahá'í law, divorce is permissible,
yet it is highly discouraged, and should be resorted to only when every effort
to prevent it has proved to be vain and ineffective. It is for you, and for
Mr.... as well, to ponder carefully over the spiritual implications which any
act of divorce on either part would involve, and, strengthened by the power of
faith and confident in the blessings which strict adherence to the principles
and laws of Bahá'u'lláh is bound to confer upon every one of His faithful
followers, to make a fresh resolve to solve your common difficulties and to
restore the harmony, peace and happiness of your family life.
- Shoghi Effendi (From a letter
written on behalf of Shoghi Effendi to an individual believer, dated 11
September 1938; The Compilation of Compilations, vol. I, Preserving Baha’i
Marriages)